tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post8424732530007398725..comments2023-05-15T10:03:35.181-04:00Comments on 1 800 DOM help: Happy Birthday to Me! Contest & Control issuesTarot By Arwenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12710933183576940528noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-20742080728643597832010-10-21T10:32:14.756-04:002010-10-21T10:32:14.756-04:00Deanne - Thanks for the birthday wishes and I'...Deanne - Thanks for the birthday wishes and I'm glad you visited.<br /><br />orelukjp0 - I agree that giving up control to someone is sometimes a relief and a real gift from your partner. Happy Birthday to your niece.<br /><br />Desi - Thanks for visiting. You're right - the deep trust inherent in a BDSM relationship is really attractive.<br /><br />flchen1 - Control and trust really do come back to enhanced intimacy between the partners in the relationship. The increased intimacy certainly draws me as a reader, and as a writer too.<br /><br />Thanks to everyone who stopped by to share their comments and celebrate my birthday. I really appreciate it! I'll post the winner later this morning!Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-36205531597568642882010-10-21T09:36:06.496-04:002010-10-21T09:36:06.496-04:00Happy Birthday!!!!
It is trust. They trust that p...Happy Birthday!!!! <br />It is trust. They trust that person soo much with everything. Not alot of people can let go and trust like that. I am kind of envious. <br />deslauree3 at aol dot comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-31944552364930147572010-10-21T01:24:11.299-04:002010-10-21T01:24:11.299-04:00Happy birthday, Francesca! I think part of the ap...Happy birthday, Francesca! I think part of the appeal is the idea that you trust someone enough to entrust your body and pleasure to him or her--that's a very intimate thing that heightens the emotional connection so that it isn't merely sex.Fedorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10879033776125666713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-33332355489289455982010-10-20T21:55:38.230-04:002010-10-20T21:55:38.230-04:00Happy birthday!!!
I think it is trust. You trust ...Happy birthday!!! <br />I think it is trust. You trust that person to pleasure you not hurt you and it is giving up control. You have to trust someone alot to be able to be their sub and to give them control over you. Not many people trust that deeply. <br />deslauree3 at aol dot comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-81165233844992854532010-10-20T21:27:13.968-04:002010-10-20T21:27:13.968-04:00I like the idea of being bound and the submissive ...I like the idea of being bound and the submissive aspect but knowing that I still have the upper hand. Sometimes when you are the supermom, it's nice to dream about giving up control. That's part of why I love to read BDSM. <br />Have a happy birthday. My niece's is on the 21st.orelukjp0https://www.blogger.com/profile/17088725937016723303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-56066392909303556672010-10-20T19:37:57.750-04:002010-10-20T19:37:57.750-04:00Happy Birthday Francesca.....great blog.Happy Birthday Francesca.....great blog.Deanne Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00333224536025266245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-53206709351770941522010-10-20T17:22:55.792-04:002010-10-20T17:22:55.792-04:00Venus - thanks for visiting the blog - and you kno...Venus - thanks for visiting the blog - and you know I'd think BDSM would be great for Catholic guilt. What's better than a spanking or being flogged to help someone work off their guilt? Grin<br /><br />Sheree - You're right. The trust has to go both ways. The one surrendering has to trust the person dominating them. But the dominant has to trust the submissive not to freak out and accuse them of abuse. That kind of trust is very special and very intimate.Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-64068624996592337092010-10-20T17:18:18.260-04:002010-10-20T17:18:18.260-04:00Happy Birthday!
I think it's the control issu...Happy Birthday!<br /><br />I think it's the control issue, the sexy surrender as you put it, and the trust exhibited by both partners.<br /><br />ironss[at]gmail.comShereehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14205244523389110839noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-14311339040545072682010-10-20T17:11:05.512-04:002010-10-20T17:11:05.512-04:00Happy Birthday Francesca!!
Very informative post. ...Happy Birthday Francesca!!<br />Very informative post. I'm still undecided as to if I'm a fan of BDSM or not, it's hard to get past the catholic guilt ;-)Venus Cnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-79457737348139844582010-10-20T15:52:56.051-04:002010-10-20T15:52:56.051-04:00Arwen, I love that part too. It's the sexy sur...Arwen, I love that part too. It's the sexy surrender that keeps me coming back for more.Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-33621418557563903502010-10-20T14:20:15.000-04:002010-10-20T14:20:15.000-04:00Happy birthday, Francesca! Don't put me in the...Happy birthday, Francesca! Don't put me in the drawing. :) I already have your hot book and love it. <br /><br />What thrills me about is the giving up of control. It's the power exchange between two equals where one willing submits to the other. Yum!Tarot By Arwenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12710933183576940528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-4816515775770527162010-10-20T13:53:05.550-04:002010-10-20T13:53:05.550-04:00Susan - thanks for the good wishes. Hope you enjoy...Susan - thanks for the good wishes. Hope you enjoyed the blog!Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-31392508696769819072010-10-20T13:51:58.071-04:002010-10-20T13:51:58.071-04:00Happy Birthday Francesca..may your day be everythi...Happy Birthday Francesca..may your day be everything you want it to be. Thanks for sharing your day with us and also giving us the gifts. susan L.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07719916545911843485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-26551700928145933452010-10-20T13:37:28.929-04:002010-10-20T13:37:28.929-04:00Maggie- Thanks for visiting the blog and for the c...Maggie- Thanks for visiting the blog and for the compliment. I'm sure you could write BDSM if it was something that intrigued you. But if not, I'm happy to share my books with you.<br /><br />Alanarose - I appreciate the good wishes. Thanks!<br /><br />Ari - thanks for stopping by my birthday party and I'm looking forward to your contribution to the 1800DOMhelp series!Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-85356250395599318542010-10-20T13:13:58.247-04:002010-10-20T13:13:58.247-04:00Happy birthday, Francesca, and thanks for sharing ...Happy birthday, Francesca, and thanks for sharing it with us!Ari Thatcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02975130394078422731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-28056809686609749612010-10-20T13:03:41.610-04:002010-10-20T13:03:41.610-04:00Happy B-Day!!! Thanks for the great post!!!Happy B-Day!!! Thanks for the great post!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10006081099678973361noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-61142072953215305912010-10-20T12:51:11.543-04:002010-10-20T12:51:11.543-04:00Happy Birthday, Francesca. Wonderful post. The w...Happy Birthday, Francesca. Wonderful post. The whole BDSM scene is intriguing. After reading your post, I may have to do a little studying on the subject and see if I can get into writing one myself. On second thought, maybe I'll just read yours. They're fantastic!Maggie Rivershttp://www.maggierivers.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-73627036997299020602010-10-20T10:52:39.385-04:002010-10-20T10:52:39.385-04:00Christine - Thanks for the good wishes. Trust is d...Christine - Thanks for the good wishes. Trust is definitely a huge issue and it's one of the most interesting too.<br /><br />Delilah - Thanks for stopping by. You have a gift for coming up with great ideas! I'll look forward to reading your story.<br /><br />Michelle - thanks for commenting. Yes, trust is definitely a special gift...a good birthday gift. Grin. Now THAT gives me ideas. Wink. <br /><br />Pookietoes - I appreciate having you visit the blog. I hope you enjoy my stories - let me know. I love to hear from readers.<br /><br />Lex - GREAT points - the character growth and interaction really works hand in hand with the control issues to make a story sizzle. Thanks for sharing!<br /><br />Jennifer - Thanks for visiting the blog today to celebrate my birthday. I agreee that giving yourself to someone you trust is really exciting.Francesca Hawleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09280521929025352600noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-35205653021039752962010-10-20T10:10:59.153-04:002010-10-20T10:10:59.153-04:00Happy Birthday Francesca!!! I like the thought of ...Happy Birthday Francesca!!! I like the thought of someone you trust having power of you <br /><br /><br />meandi09@yahoo.comJennifer Mathishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01348224965449535905noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-33564775265952239442010-10-20T09:27:38.294-04:002010-10-20T09:27:38.294-04:00Happy birthday, Francesca! I'm looking forward...Happy birthday, Francesca! I'm looking forward to reading this series. My BDSM books have been on the light side but the overriding theme has been about discovery of self, of the things you want and what you're willing to do to win the person you love. So yeah, control is the hot part, but delving into the characters' psyche is what I think is really hot.Lex Valentinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04913165199017718669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-87164920008759795482010-10-20T09:18:41.745-04:002010-10-20T09:18:41.745-04:00Happy Birthday Francesca! Can't wait to read y...Happy Birthday Francesca! Can't wait to read your books.Pookietoeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13382558611190085279noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-17644159336755586822010-10-20T08:51:30.123-04:002010-10-20T08:51:30.123-04:00Happy Birthday, Francesca! Your past book sounds g...Happy Birthday, Francesca! Your past book sounds great and you know I'm looking forward to Controlling Interest. It's a special gift to trust someone enough to let them bind you, and very hot as you said. Enjoy your day and treat yourself to a little fun.Michelle Polarishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03717774498289472190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-58897031798099300792010-10-20T08:40:29.868-04:002010-10-20T08:40:29.868-04:00Happy Birthday, Cesca! Nice post too! I still need...Happy Birthday, Cesca! Nice post too! I still need to figure out what I'm gonna write for the series!Delilah Devlinhttp://www.delilahdevlin.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8024713165941894494.post-49691692279769923452010-10-20T08:31:20.973-04:002010-10-20T08:31:20.973-04:00Happy Birthday, Francesca!! I hope you have an ama...Happy Birthday, Francesca!! I hope you have an amazing day, sweetie. <br /><br />*does a snoopy dance*<br /><br />I love the trust and control factors in BDSM. It's certainly not something I'd let any old person do.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12777733587200293442noreply@blogger.com