Fighting for Control

So, did I happen to mention that Fighting for Control is out now? I know, I know, bad author! I'd suggest flogging me but I might enjoy it too much and not get back to writing!

Speaking of enjoying, this book has gotten some nice reviews! Angela at Sizzling Hot Book Reviews gave it 4 hearts!

Amy at the Romance Studio also gave it 4 hearts.

I am so tickled they liked it, and I got such a kick reading the book through their comments. There's a gift you can give all your favorite authors for the holidays - leave a review on Goodreads or the site where you bought the book. That's the best part of writing (next to royalty checks, of course!), hearing from the readers who enjoy your books.

Happy Holidays to you all! May Santa leave you a naughty toy or two, and a sexy playmate to enjoy it with. I wish you all a safe holiday.

Top, Bottom or Switch?

I found a very brief quiz which I thought was fun.

The BDSM Selector will tell you if you're vanilla, a top, bottom, sub, Dom(me) or whatever. I rated as bottom, followed by slave/sub/switch. There was such a large gap between responses, however, that I must research the difference.

I would love to hear your results if you take the test, and whether or not you feel they're true. Come on, 'fess up!

What (BDSM) Romance Authors are Teaching Their Readers

Looking through this month’s posts, I see trying something new for thirty days, flogging 101, wishing I were a man and a delightful rendition of what I could do with that penis if I had one. If you believe articles that suggest we learn what to expect in relationships from what we read, we BDSM erotic romance authors want you to buy a strap-on and flogger and give them a test run for thirty days.

Seriously?

Now, trying new things is fun, sure. And if you want to really know if it works for you, thirty days is a good test run. But as readers we all know authors aren’t suggestng you try everything we write about.

I’d guess that half of BDSM readers enjoy the fantasy of something different, and half enjoy the lifestyle and like reading what they know, give or take a few readers. And those of you reading BDSM know what you love about it.

I think a good portion either consciously or unconsciously look for the happy ending, regardless of where the sex takes place on the way there. The books in the 1-800-DOM-help series confirm this. We have two Spectrum categories, the same-sex couples who end up with a promise of staying together, at least for a while. The rest, so far at least, are Taboo, covering the heterosexual and multi-partner groups who also end up exploring a relationship at the end.

My upcoming addition to the series, Fighting for Control, follows suit. Marc, Brad and Lori want to see where the lifestyle takes them as a threesome. Making a D/s/D relationship work has to be a challenge, but they’re willing to be flexible, and as long as everyone is open about their needs, they should be able to keep it going indefinitely. Don’t you think?

The underlying theme I see in all our posts, and all our stories, is be true to yourself in sex and in love. Have fun, be open to change, and find the love who deserves you. Life’s too short for anything less!

It's The Shoes!

Whenever I look for interesting photos of BDSM elements, I see a pattern emerge. Red shoes, black shoes. Black shoes with red flames. Black boots, red boots. No offense to the dear man, but it begins to sound like a Dr. Suess book! One shoe, two shoes, red shoes, black shoes.

What do these shoes and boots have to do with the scene? I'd have to say it's the way they make us feel. Even if all you are doing tonight is dressing up as a naughty maid, think about it. How naughty would you feel in a pair of sneakers, versus stilettos? Flip flops versus thigh-hugging boots?

As a Domme, you want the appearance of sexy power. Assuming you can stand in them without wobbling, killer heels gives you that feeling, and if you feel sexy, you can throw off sexy vibes.

We have so many classes of shoe in our daily lives: comfy, sensible, work, exercise, heel, flat. And in my case, lime green. (Yes, I have more than a dozen pairs of lime shoes. I took to heart the selling point "it's the new black"!) When you plan your outfit, for the boardroom or the bedroom, don't forget to choose the perfect shoe. It can make or break your day.

Tuesday Toys: Of Cocks and Napkin Rings

I love researching on the Internet. Type a few words in your search engine, kick back and laugh at the results. For today's post I began with my usual terms: "BDSM history" and adapted outward from there to variations of terms I found regarding cock rings from the past.

One terribly painful looking device that came up was a German Spermatorrhoea Ring.

Apparently our Victorian/Edwardian ancestors were afraid of sperm loss due to masturbation. To prevent that, they prevented arousal with this device.

But you can find something similar these days if your tastes run to chastity devices, like this one.

The most entertaining hit of the night was this cock ring:

Wouldn't a set of these be great for holiday dinners with vanilla family members?