Sometimes the easiest way to venture into BDSM is through toys. Handcuffs are a common accessory in many bedrooms, or silk ties. You can turn over control for the duration of the play without taking any life-changing steps.
Add a blindfold and you've increased the need for trust quite a bit. But, every sensation will be heightened by not being able to see it coming. Tension increases as you wait, wondering. Will your lover tease you with a feather? His tongue? Or maybe the startling roughness of a brush. Again, you've increased your body's reactions without giving up too much.
As your trust level increases you can introduce floggers, whip-like instruments with soft tails to add some sting. Or a paddle, if spanking is your thing. But the paddle can hurt if used too harshly, so discuss this with your partner thoroughly before use.
What about nipple clamps? Are you ready for a little pain?
Shopping together for your new toys can be foreplay just from imagining using the item. You can also find out limits and areas of interest you never suspected. These are both good to know before you bring your purchase home.
Do you have a favorite toy you're willing to confess to trying? Or one that's on your list to try? Do you enjoy reading about the toys a couple (or moresome) uses? A well-written sex scene can take away the need for toys, scenes and a partner, right? Because we all know the largest sex organ is the brain. Here's to stimulating your brain!
Ari Thatcher
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
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Grab a couple of long bungee cords, run them under your mattress at the head and foot of the bed, and you have a handy dandy way to secure your partner spread eagle. Plus the ends tuck nicely back under the mattress away from unwelcome eyes. Just sayin'.
ReplyDeleteClothes line bought at the hardware store makes nice bondage rope. Just wash it a few times so it gets nice and soft. Be sure to buy some safety shears too - just in case the knots get too tight!
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